Alkebulanian in Alkebulan

There is a reason bitter people are bitter. They were not born that way. Nobody comes from their mother's womb with an aloe vera pup in their mouth ready to cultivate a bitter life. The bitterness children or adults have come from wounds inflicted on them by others or by tragic world circumstances. Nobody sets out to mold their existence around misfortune, injustice, abuse and strife just so that they can end up becoming disciples of the Algea. Everyone starts out wanting to lead a happy life with the exception of those who suffer mental imbalances that draw them towards suffering or making others suffer. Bitterness is not a character trait or a default human setting. It is not like black, brown, tall, short, beautiful or ugly. It is an emotional condition thus there isn't one group of people who can be accurately described as bitter just because of who they are. It takes much more to be bitter than just being labelled bitter. Nowadays the word bitter is used as a slur by many ...

Fragile masculinity goes hand in hand with toxic masculinity. Both serve detrimental purposes but after all is said and done, fragile masculinity is not something that can be treated by women; feminist or not. At least not by themselves. The kind of fragility I speak about cannot be cured with platitudes and praises from submissive women or dodgy male friends who lie to their mates for various reasons. Neither can it be cured with material wealth, status or any other external factors. It is a complex, internal construct which requires a holistic approach to heal both symptomatically and also in full. Fragile masculinity may be exacerbated in part by women who are clumsy around men who are said to have fragile egos but the fact of the matter is that women did not create this phenomena. The patriarchal society did this all by itself the minute it decided to dump all kinds of responsibilities and expectations on males; expectations that they are no longer able to meet like their counterpa...

Men with money do strange things to men who don't have money especially when or if they run in the same circles. A well grounded son of man will instantaneously turn into a complaisant, grovelling woose as soon as Mkubwa's number surfaces on his Chinese phone screen. It begins from when he picks up the call with both hands; oozingthe polite demeanour of say, a monk that hasn't seen other humans for years. "Yes Mkubwa" is often followed by a series of slow, respectful nods or measured 'burahahahas' depending on the mood of the reverent being on the other side of the mouthpiece. You as the wife will be forgiven for thinking that he is speaking to the president and is about to be handed that githeriman status. Upon securing the ever elusive meeting, Baba so and so will begin whistling triumphantly as he walks around the house like he has gained six vertical inches. On that day he will preside over his own wardrobe choices instead of waiting for Mama so and so...